Change – An evolution/ A Metamorphosis.

There are different kinds of change – Proactive and reactive. Change that happens to us and we have to adapt, this could be societal, economic or relationships etc, Change that is internal, where we decide to make a change or break a monotonous norm. Either way, change is difficult and it all comes down to how we mentally prepare and act towards either making or accepting the change.

Change is the new constant they say and is still the most difficult pill for some. Whenever there has been a change we have either opposed it, reacted to it or have just been bystanders waiting to see what happens next. There are some who are optimist and feel good about the change until the actual change happens. We can crib about it or we can sing about, but until we don’t take the first step we will not be able to embrace Change.

We are on the last day of the year, and most of us may have made a laundry list of resolutions for the New Year. For most, this list will fail in the first month itself and not because they don’t want to make the change but because they don’t know how to sustain the change they have attempted.

For many of us, we have to make the change and probably it’s the most difficult step. In order to be healthy and fit, you need a change in diet, exercise more, sleep better, get off social media, change a job, dream a new dream, accept new way of living etc.

Imagine if there is someone who is making a change in diet, we focus so much on what we cannot do that this overshadows the acts of what needs to be done. Focus on the change, focus on what needs to be done rather than on wanting to forget or overcome something. It’s always difficult to give up or make a change to a way of living. The best way to do it is by inculcating a new habit. So for those changing their diet and attempting to give up junk food, there are a lot of alternatives they can eat from, focus on what can I eat, what’s healthy and tasty, it’s more like supplementing one food for another. When you focus on the goodness of the new food, you will enjoy the new diet and it’s easier to sustain in the long run. You can try with a simple experiment, by reducing sugar in tea, drink the tea with less sugar for about 2-3 weeks and your palate will change. After 2-3 weeks have tea with the regular sugar and you will instantly know the difference of the extra sugar. This small act goes in a long way of controlling sugar intake.

The only way to get over hurt, bad dreams is to focus on something new and different. We are all prisoners of our thought, the more we think about something the more it gets imprinted on the brain. We reach a point that we start meditating on it and think about it every instant. This thought becomes an addition. So what better way if we can think about something positive, focus on what can be… positively, and dream a new dream. Initially it’s difficult to begin with and you will need to make a conscious effort to ponder on those thoughts. It is when you focus on these new positive thoughts that your thoughts of despair, helplessness or whatever else you want to overcome or change reduces, becomes small, insignificant and overtime disappears.

You basically have to channelize your energies on making a new habit, thinking about how is this change beneficial to you. At times you may also want to ask yourself the question, what happens if I don’t accept the change. What is the cost of not embracing this change? Is my security, peace, or my well-being or my future dependent on this change?

Change is here to stay, it is our friend, the faster we accept the change the easier it is to go ahead in our life. Change is a renewal of life, if we look closely at our surroundings a silkworm has to change to a butterfly that is nature, similarly a day has to turn to night and day again. Even the mountains change, over a period of time they are eroded, new sedimentation happens, climate changes impact them and they change. Then how difficult is it for you and me to change. Start with a small step, move forward, rest if you need to, pause if needed but for every one step back take two steps in the direction of change.

“When you change the whole world changes with you”

“When we least expect it, life sets us a challenge to test our courage and willingness to change; at such a moment, there is no point in pretending that nothing has happened or in saying that we are not yet ready. The challenge will not wait. Life does not look back. A week is more than enough time for us to decide whether or not to accept our destiny.”
― Paulo Coelho,


Life as we know it…..

There are times in our life when things go wrong go drastically wrong. We may be at the top of our game and at the pinnacle of our art but then  sometimes due to no fault of ours, things seem to be going seems whatever you have built is either coming crashing down or brick by brick is falling apart. It’s almost like you are in a highway driving at cruise speed and then you hit a barrier that was not meant to be there and your car swirls out of control. When you finally are in control, you realize that your car is a wreck, and sometimes depending on how bad the accident you may have a scar or an injury.

Life is tough and there will be times when things are out of our control. It’s frustrating at times coz no matter what you do the outcome is always perceived negatively. No matter how hard you work, you are always hit below the belt. You start feeling that you are dealt a poor hand. Everyone else is better off and don’t seem to have the same problem as me.

You may be having a life, where everything has been good and the grass is green and then something happens and then you are no longer in control and you seem to be sinking in quicksand.

There will be circumstances in life, when everything and everyone seems to be going against you. During this time it’s easy to be negative and say why me? We tend to get critical of others as well as ourselves. If the situation still continues it may push you to a corner where you may start doubting your own confidence & decisions. That is where persistence and resilience is so important.

Sometimes it’s not about fighting back. The situation is like a perfect storm, where you don’t fight it, at times its best you lay low and let the storm pass rather than paddle against the storm. Paddling against the storm may only tire you out and the storm will engulf you completely. If you stay low and just stay focused on what you need to do, after sometime the storm will pass and you will be able to paddle away on a beautiful day.

At times there are battlefields in the mind, where you literally play out what’s happening and what needs to happen as a result it drains you out further. We need to focus on what we can do and the rest leave to God, we cannot control everything.

Below are some tips that can help you tide during such situations:

  1. Gratitude Journal – Focus on the positive, we would like to have a lot more, but we could also have alot less. Be thankful for the people and things in your life. A Gratitude Journal is a good way to be thankful on a daily basis for all the goodness experienced during the day. As a result of the negativity we tend to focus only on what’s wrong or broken. The journal is good reminder of all the goodness that’s still in our life.
  2. Spirituality – it’s important that you have some kind of belief and practice some kind of belief in God. This life and our existence is supernatural and understanding that connection can be very soothing.
  3. Be Gentle towards yourself. – You need to be gentle towards yourself there’s a lot going on and our circumstances may be forcing us to a corner. People, our friends and family may not be speaking highly of us. But you need to make peace with yourself and let yourself know that you are doing everting in your power to do the right thing and pat your back and tell yourself that you will get through this and you are a good person. There is no shortage of critics and you don’t need to be a self-critic as you will be with yourself at all times your soul needs to be at peace with your mind. It’s not your fault that someone died, their time was up and they had to go. It’s not your fault that something went wrong, it’s not your fault that there is no food in your fridge. Give yourself some slack and focus on what needs to be done. You can’t blame yourself for everything.
  4. No Self Pity – While you need to be gentle towards yourself, you can’t afford to have self-pity. You can cry if needed if it helps calm your nerves. Having a pity party with yourself will pull you down and if this is at a regular interval it may lead you to depression. It’s ok to be depressed once a while but don’t stay there. Pity party will only dampen your spirts further. There is a lot more to live for and life is not over yet.
  5. Reduce Negativity – cut down on negative relationships, thoughts or anything that influences negativity. This is the most important aspect, if you surround yourself with negativity than no matter what you do, you will always focus on negativity and you will be more and more negative to everything including yourself. Any sign of positive progress can be brought down by surrounding ourselves with negative or toxic people. Negative people may further magnify a negative situation and over power the good in your life.
  6. Surround yourself with positivity- Positive people will build you and reinforce hope and positivity in your life. Seeing the glass half full is a very important aspect especially when you are struggling in a situation. You will enjoy positive aspects even in a worst case scenario. Be surrounded by a positive environment, if there is someplace that brings down your energy its best you avoid it now or at least until you are strong enough to face it again.
  7. This too shall pass – know that everything is not constant, everything good or bad will pass away with time. You need to be resilient but remind yourself that this is a temporary phase. Having this attitude helps you overcome the most difficult life changing events.
  8. Get creative – Do something you love, get a passion that helps you overcome your emotions. Find a hobby or alternate passion like painting, cooking, hiking, music anything that soothes you.
  9. Stay Fit – Both mentally and physical, start exercising on a regular basis, this emits positivity in the body as well you will get some balance. If nothing at all, it help you in taking out your frustration in a very creative way.
  10. Drink Water – Don’t underestimate the humble is a fluid which reaches every part of the body and supplying essentials to our different body part. Drinking water keeps us hydrated, this a wonderful remedy with no hangover.
  11. Eating Healthy – Nutrition is key to how we feel, what we eat is what we feel, identify what foods make you irritated or happy. However binge eating is not an answer neither is eating chocolate at all times. Rather focus on nutritious & natural food. Consider your current health and include, proteins, carbo hydrates and the necessary fat. Avoid fast food and anything that is unhealthy.
  12. Circle of Influence – Focus on what is within your control. You have an important meeting, stuck in traffic, what’s in your control – no point cursing and trying to drive like a maniac. Inform the participants you will be late, can you reschedule. Best is if you can plan in advance in anticipation of the traffic. Focus on what’s in your control, the more you get irritated and frustrated, the more it will impact your mental well-being.
  13. Self-Talk – Sometimes a pep talk is needed, positive self-talk is needed as your soul needs to hear the words. At times emotions are high when we are angry or frustrated, sometimes it almost feels like a lost situation or people may make you feel like a loser. It is during those times that you need to talk to yourself and let yourself know that you are worthy and there is a purpose to your life there is a calling and this phase is temporary. It’s important that you self-talk in present tense. Eg. I am good in singing, not I will be good in singing. This too shall pass not this will pass. The tense of the sentence should be present tense so your senses can accept this view point and slowly you will see the positive change.
  14. Talk to someone – Sometimes just talking out your feelings, thoughts or situation with someone you trust, unleashes the pent up negative energy. But don’t continue on a negative ongoing rant as it will hamper your further. It’s ok to vent but not get into a victim mode.
  15. Help others – Helping others can sometime help create a sense of positivity.
  16. Get Help if needed – Seek help from friends and family there is no share in asking for help. Sometimes it’s best to seek a professional help it’s not wrong. We are living in stressful times where the pressures of life is high. It’s completely acceptable to seek professional counselling, mentoring, coaching or medical help as needed.

Know that everything has a reason, you will only learn with time why you had to endure this difficult situation. Life is a best teacher, you don’t need to know the answers to everything in life. You need to know that you are unique you are blessed and God has a plan for you. Life is a journey not a destination we are travelers so let’s make most of this life. We will hit some rough patches, lean in on others as needed but make sure that you make some memories while in dirt. We will reach out destination in all crowning glory.

Rainy Night

Its 7:30 and there’s no Sun

It’s raining so I couldn’t go for my run.

It’s been raining all night

telling me its monsoon time all-right.

The lightening & thundering has me scared

And I am sleeping in fright under my bed.

I ask God to take it away

And he reminds me that it’s not the month of May.


Please I say, I am scared of thunder & lightening

The thunderous sound has me freighting.

God smiled and said,

Come out from under the bed.

It needs to rain as per plan

Just breathe and you will be fine in ten.


Just then the dark sky is lit up with light followed by a clap of thunder.

My heart flutters and I creep back under.

God, I say is this your way of a joke

I am scared and you mock and poke.

God says, no child, be brave and trust me

This thunder & lightening by morning will flee.


I sleep not throughout the night

And wait for the first ray of light.

I am welcomed by the monsoon sights

I am relieved that I lived through the night,


God says, child, life is a roller coaster ride

Yes I say, and many times I have cried.

He smiles, it’s filled with peaks & valleys

You will experience rainy & sunny days.

As you live your life, I will show you different ways.

If you endure the rains you will be able to enjoy the sun

And then you can go for your run.

So it is with life, if you endure the rains and pains

You will reap the joy & gains


Sometimes life pushes us to a wall,

Just remember it’s not the end of it all.

You will be relieved that you lived through the night

And with the first ray of light comes the sun

And I can now go for my Run.








Destiny – Do I have a Choice

“Do you believe in destiny” my friend asked. I looked at her and then replied yes I do.. She thought about it and then asked “what is destiny according to you”?  A fair question I though because her understanding of destiny is likely to different than mine.

While have always believed that we all have a destiny I never thought about it the way my friend was asking me. I told her the first thing that came to my head that our destiny is already decided, everything happens for a reason, and we have a destination, an end point that we all are headed to. What is my destination? while I understand I don’t really know the end point yet? She was not convinced with my answer and obviously her understanding of destiny was different. We never got to complete the conversation, but that led me to introspect a few things about destiny and destination.

What really is destiny, what is my destiny, do I have any say in the destiny. I thought about it, I looked up the meaning, below were the 2 that I could find.

  1. The events that will necessarily happen to a particular person or thing in the future.
  2. The hidden power believed to control future events; fate.

I am more of a believer of the second definition that there is a supernatural power, a God who is in control of our destiny with the aspect that everything happens for a reason. But then I thought if everything is pre-defined then do I have a choice, if not then what is the point of taking efforts & struggling in this life, when something is not going to change.

I thought about it, I realized that in life while God wants nothing but the best for us, the Free Will is with us humans. Remember the movie Bruce Almighty, this dialogue in the movie has stayed with me,  There are only 2 rules. You can’t tell anybody you’re God, believe me you don’t want that kind of attention, and you can’t mess with free will. Basically God does not interfere with the Free Will of us humans and we have the power of acting without the constraint of necessity or fate; the ability to act at one’s own discretion.

No matter what situation we are in good, bad or ugly we always have choices. The choices & decisions we make either lead us closer or further away from the destination. The Bible says: I call heaven and earth to record this day against you, that I have set before you, life and death, blessing and cursing: therefore choose life, that both thou and thy seed may live:

The GPS analogy is good way to describe destiny and final destination. So think about it this way, you are going on a vacation and you are using your GPS. As you drive down the road you decided to use the fastest route to the destination as displayed by the GPS. We always do that, but sometimes as we know, roads sometimes in the interiors of a location are not mapped accurately and then we may end up taking a wrong turn. This then leads to a detour and the GPS then suggests another path to the destination. Assuming how off path you would have got, you will need travel that extra distance in order to reach the final destination. At times the GPS suggest multiple options and you make a choice which route to drive. So primarily we always have options, no matter what kind of a dire situation we are in.

If I am destined to be on stage or to be a personality figure, than no matter what choice I make, like getting a profession which does not lead me to the destination. I will go further away from my destination. I have the power to make the choices. There may be times that I am evading my destiny and make choices which are in opposite of where my destiny lies. There will come a point in time where you will have to make a detour, if you don’t, you will make a destiny which is very different than the one that God planned for you.

God will only be supportive and try to provide us options and choices at all times so we can make the right choices and get back on track and move closer to our destiny.

Another movie that I remember is dangerous minds a quote that hit me home was, “Hey, listen. Nobody’s forcing you to be here. You have a choice. You can stay, or you can leave…. There are no victims in this classroom” another dialogue is “Because I make a choice to care. And honey, the money ain’t that good.”

We have a choice in everything that happens to us, we can do it or not do it. Doing nothing about something at hand is also a choice. So really when we are in our journey of life we have plenty of options and choices. Choices & decisions that we take in life really make us who we are and this can either a good reflection of who we were either meant to be or someone that is unrecognizable. I am made in the image of God so I am destined to a lot more in life and will not settle for less. Being more choice full and decisive will help ensure that I reach my final destination.

So in closing I will exercise my free will the power of acting without the constraint of necessity or fate; the ability to act at one’s own discretion.


Life is life!!


Life is a roller coaster ride

With its up and downs like tides

Its upto us how we live it

Whether we live or quit


Life can be hard at times

With its sadness mimes

And its nasty blows

And so many go with the flows


Have you thought for once?

That this is billion dollar chance

To live life to the fullest

Or to journey in life clueless


Adversity holds us by the tongs

And we hold on to the past for too long

You have the answer to it all

And you can rise after every fall

All it takes is an attitude

And live the beatitude


Turn your hopes on high

For you are mighty like an Eagle

Flap out your wings and soar in the sky

and don’t worry about the niggles

And when the sky darkens

And if adversity harkens

Just fly over the stormy weather

and glide through life like a feather.


Have you thought for once?

That this is billion dollar chance

To live life to the fullest

Or to journey in life clueless

Life is life, give it the best.







What a feeling – You can have it all!


Everything happens for a reason,

So we have to understand everything has a season.

We are all created for a purpose,

So not sure whats all the fuss.

Coz we all have talent in surplus,

We all have gifts that we are meant to share,

And show the hurting world we care.


What is it that you can give,

Know that’s what you came to live.

We all have a purpose,

Ask yourself what it is,

And you will find the life’s keys.

It will unlock all happiness in store,

Love, Peace, Success, Health & More.


What is the legacy you want to leave behind?

Remember in life there is no rewind.

Make the best of your now time,

Before it’s too late and you are beyond your prime.

Everything happens for a reason,

So we have to understand everything has a season.