There are different kinds of change – Proactive and reactive. Change that happens to us and we have to adapt, this could be societal, economic or relationships etc, Change that is internal, where we decide to make a change or break a monotonous norm. Either way, change is difficult and it all comes down to how we mentally prepare and act towards either making or accepting the change.
Change is the new constant they say and is still the most difficult pill for some. Whenever there has been a change we have either opposed it, reacted to it or have just been bystanders waiting to see what happens next. There are some who are optimist and feel good about the change until the actual change happens. We can crib about it or we can sing about, but until we don’t take the first step we will not be able to embrace Change.
We are on the last day of the year, and most of us may have made a laundry list of resolutions for the New Year. For most, this list will fail in the first month itself and not because they don’t want to make the change but because they don’t know how to sustain the change they have attempted.
For many of us, we have to make the change and probably it’s the most difficult step. In order to be healthy and fit, you need a change in diet, exercise more, sleep better, get off social media, change a job, dream a new dream, accept new way of living etc.
Imagine if there is someone who is making a change in diet, we focus so much on what we cannot do that this overshadows the acts of what needs to be done. Focus on the change, focus on what needs to be done rather than on wanting to forget or overcome something. It’s always difficult to give up or make a change to a way of living. The best way to do it is by inculcating a new habit. So for those changing their diet and attempting to give up junk food, there are a lot of alternatives they can eat from, focus on what can I eat, what’s healthy and tasty, it’s more like supplementing one food for another. When you focus on the goodness of the new food, you will enjoy the new diet and it’s easier to sustain in the long run. You can try with a simple experiment, by reducing sugar in tea, drink the tea with less sugar for about 2-3 weeks and your palate will change. After 2-3 weeks have tea with the regular sugar and you will instantly know the difference of the extra sugar. This small act goes in a long way of controlling sugar intake.
The only way to get over hurt, bad dreams is to focus on something new and different. We are all prisoners of our thought, the more we think about something the more it gets imprinted on the brain. We reach a point that we start meditating on it and think about it every instant. This thought becomes an addition. So what better way if we can think about something positive, focus on what can be… positively, and dream a new dream. Initially it’s difficult to begin with and you will need to make a conscious effort to ponder on those thoughts. It is when you focus on these new positive thoughts that your thoughts of despair, helplessness or whatever else you want to overcome or change reduces, becomes small, insignificant and overtime disappears.
You basically have to channelize your energies on making a new habit, thinking about how is this change beneficial to you. At times you may also want to ask yourself the question, what happens if I don’t accept the change. What is the cost of not embracing this change? Is my security, peace, or my well-being or my future dependent on this change?
Change is here to stay, it is our friend, the faster we accept the change the easier it is to go ahead in our life. Change is a renewal of life, if we look closely at our surroundings a silkworm has to change to a butterfly that is nature, similarly a day has to turn to night and day again. Even the mountains change, over a period of time they are eroded, new sedimentation happens, climate changes impact them and they change. Then how difficult is it for you and me to change. Start with a small step, move forward, rest if you need to, pause if needed but for every one step back take two steps in the direction of change.
“When you change the whole world changes with you”
“When we least expect it, life sets us a challenge to test our courage and willingness to change; at such a moment, there is no point in pretending that nothing has happened or in saying that we are not yet ready. The challenge will not wait. Life does not look back. A week is more than enough time for us to decide whether or not to accept our destiny.”
― Paulo Coelho,