Giving up is not an option….

We are all unique in our own way. We have endured and continue to endure experiences which are unique to us. It is also possible that many of us may have experienced the same incident but our responses may be different. As humans we can create our own responses which are different to the same situation.

Troubles come in our life, and sometimes we don’t know why we are going through it. The wet pillow becomes a best friend at some points in our life. During such times, make a decision and take action, take control if possible. However sometimes we can’t do anything and can’t find a solution for such situations. At such times, its best to take a pause, make progress slowly but don’t give up. We understand life backwards and so will not know why something happened until later in life. One thing I am sure of is that everything happens for a reason, we have the power to endure. When we cannot, we have a greater force on our side which helps us tide this situation.

During such difficult times – it’s easy to give up, succumb to the situation and go to the extreme of ending one’s life. However according to me giving up is not an option. We should strive to live and continue to prosper. So what if you have lost a loved one, you are lonely, or you are completely shattered, these are unpleasant experiences, but they build you for what’s in store. You may be the only survivor in your family with no purpose to live. But who knows it is this experience that can propel you to bring healing to others. So what if you are bed ridden, you have a life, ask yourself what I can do positively in your life. What can you do, what can be if you take the first step? May be you can tell a story, may be you help others.

God has created our beautiful life – there may be some hiccups along the way. Life may not be as beautiful for us now but it doesn’t have to stay that way forever. Everything in life is momentary, how we cope with life is all that matters and once you make that shift is when you will be able to view life differently. It’s easy to be a victim and blame others for everything bad in our life, but if we can change this perspective in learning what life has in store for us than this will be a very different journey.

No matter what is the state of our life, there is a reason why we are here in this world, we have a purpose in life that only we can fulfill. It is possible that we don’t know that purpose and once we know the purpose in life, we will be propelled in a whole new direction. Many a times we give up and quit when we are almost about to strike gold. Giving up is never an option, make a decision to endure, to make the change and make a difference in your own and others’ lives. Who knows, your trouble, helplessness, worries may disappear the very next hour, day, month or year.

“I can choose either to be a victim of the world or an adventurer in search of treasure. It’s all a question of how I view my life.”
―Paulo Coelho


Destiny – Do I have a Choice

“Do you believe in destiny” my friend asked. I looked at her and then replied yes I do.. She thought about it and then asked “what is destiny according to you”?  A fair question I though because her understanding of destiny is likely to different than mine.

While have always believed that we all have a destiny I never thought about it the way my friend was asking me. I told her the first thing that came to my head that our destiny is already decided, everything happens for a reason, and we have a destination, an end point that we all are headed to. What is my destination? while I understand I don’t really know the end point yet? She was not convinced with my answer and obviously her understanding of destiny was different. We never got to complete the conversation, but that led me to introspect a few things about destiny and destination.

What really is destiny, what is my destiny, do I have any say in the destiny. I thought about it, I looked up the meaning, below were the 2 that I could find.

  1. The events that will necessarily happen to a particular person or thing in the future.
  2. The hidden power believed to control future events; fate.

I am more of a believer of the second definition that there is a supernatural power, a God who is in control of our destiny with the aspect that everything happens for a reason. But then I thought if everything is pre-defined then do I have a choice, if not then what is the point of taking efforts & struggling in this life, when something is not going to change.

I thought about it, I realized that in life while God wants nothing but the best for us, the Free Will is with us humans. Remember the movie Bruce Almighty, this dialogue in the movie has stayed with me,  There are only 2 rules. You can’t tell anybody you’re God, believe me you don’t want that kind of attention, and you can’t mess with free will. Basically God does not interfere with the Free Will of us humans and we have the power of acting without the constraint of necessity or fate; the ability to act at one’s own discretion.

No matter what situation we are in good, bad or ugly we always have choices. The choices & decisions we make either lead us closer or further away from the destination. The Bible says: I call heaven and earth to record this day against you, that I have set before you, life and death, blessing and cursing: therefore choose life, that both thou and thy seed may live:

The GPS analogy is good way to describe destiny and final destination. So think about it this way, you are going on a vacation and you are using your GPS. As you drive down the road you decided to use the fastest route to the destination as displayed by the GPS. We always do that, but sometimes as we know, roads sometimes in the interiors of a location are not mapped accurately and then we may end up taking a wrong turn. This then leads to a detour and the GPS then suggests another path to the destination. Assuming how off path you would have got, you will need travel that extra distance in order to reach the final destination. At times the GPS suggest multiple options and you make a choice which route to drive. So primarily we always have options, no matter what kind of a dire situation we are in.

If I am destined to be on stage or to be a personality figure, than no matter what choice I make, like getting a profession which does not lead me to the destination. I will go further away from my destination. I have the power to make the choices. There may be times that I am evading my destiny and make choices which are in opposite of where my destiny lies. There will come a point in time where you will have to make a detour, if you don’t, you will make a destiny which is very different than the one that God planned for you.

God will only be supportive and try to provide us options and choices at all times so we can make the right choices and get back on track and move closer to our destiny.

Another movie that I remember is dangerous minds a quote that hit me home was, “Hey, listen. Nobody’s forcing you to be here. You have a choice. You can stay, or you can leave…. There are no victims in this classroom” another dialogue is “Because I make a choice to care. And honey, the money ain’t that good.”

We have a choice in everything that happens to us, we can do it or not do it. Doing nothing about something at hand is also a choice. So really when we are in our journey of life we have plenty of options and choices. Choices & decisions that we take in life really make us who we are and this can either a good reflection of who we were either meant to be or someone that is unrecognizable. I am made in the image of God so I am destined to a lot more in life and will not settle for less. Being more choice full and decisive will help ensure that I reach my final destination.

So in closing I will exercise my free will the power of acting without the constraint of necessity or fate; the ability to act at one’s own discretion.