Compass – Contrive to accomplish


Using a compass underwater is very tricky, not because it is difficult to operate but because you lose sense of direction. On land, you have some landmarks, signs and you are able to identify if you are headed in the right direction. Underwater you may not have any landmarks, it may just be water around you and so there is no way to know if you are headed in the right direction. Over confidence is the other issue, it is possible that you may believe in your own abilities and swim forward in a straight line, but if you glance at the compass you will know you have drifted off course. So when underwater it is very important that you check the compass from time to time to ensure you can make the adjustment and are headed in the right direction.

Direction & focus is very important in achieving our Goals. We get distracted by stuff that happens in life and lose our sense of direction and the goal altogether. So it’s important to revisit the compass and identify if you are reaching closer to your goal or not. Lets take an eg – if the goal is to be fit, you may have a well laid plan for a diet, work out etc. Your compass is likely to be your BMI, body energy and how your body adapts to this routine, if you pay attention to this compass you will know if you are on track. However life is not always a dream and its possible your routine may go off schedule, sleepovers with friends, family function, parties, hectic work schedules including stuff that needs your immediate attention may take priority. Our body is programmed for flight or fight and in both these modes our body behaves differently and we prioritize everything that we think is urgent and important and forget about our goal.

It is also possible that you may be successful to follow the routine however after sometime you miss looking at the compass (BMI) and little do you know that your diet / workout has changed subtly. You feel confident in your own ability and dismiss the compass, it is only one fine day it dawns on you that your efforts have been in vain and now you may have to re-do everything again. So it’s very important that you review your compass (BMI) periodically.

Whatever your goal it’s important that you have guiding principles or a compass that can tell you if you are headed towards your goal. It’s clear many of us get disillusioned by other things that demand our attention and we lose our focus and lose interest in our Goal and it stays on the back burner. During these times ask yourself why I want this Goal, what will happen if I don’t achieve it, what will happen if I achieve it. If there is no passion to the above questions it’s likely that your Goal is frivolous and has no meaning. However if there is passion then it’s important that you have a compass that can help you stay on course.

Like a good diver, you may want to chart your path in advance, while the actual situation under water or in real life may vary, at least it gives you a sense of what to expect ahead and you can plan accordingly. As you chart the route you may identify small milestones on the way, achieving these can be very fruitful and can give further impetuous to the Goal.

It is also important to remember that a compass is also not error free, so you can use the compass as an instrument but you should also rely on your intuition and your inner self. So take the time out chart your course, follow your compass, and if the compass breaks down, follow your instinct.

You don’t throw a compass overboard because the ocean is calm

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Lets Play


Its another day, another year

To put to bed all the fears

A new beginning for dreams to renew

For those to come true only for you.

 

Life has a way of presenting itself uniquely

Making us dance to its tune cheekily.

Laugh at all problems the till you cry

Make sure during difficult times you always try.

 

Thank God for good bad and everything,

To his blessings you always cling,

Don’t give up on your dreams

Coz just when its all bad it seems

At a distance you will see a glimmer,

You wont know how close you are

Till you with troubles you spar

 

It’s a new day, a new dream, a new way

Its game on so, lets play.

Danke 2017


Thank you for the missed opportunities, I now know what I want.
Thank You for the loneliness, I now know how to make peace and live with myself.
Thank you for those who walked out of my life,
I now know who are my true friends.
Thank you for the job, I now know what I truly aspire for.
Thank you for the sickness, I now value healthy living and take better care of myself.
Thank you for the broken dreams, I can now dream a new dream.
Thank You for the challenges, I now know that I can push my limits and be Victorious.
Thank You 2017 for all the good, the bad the ugly coz you have made me a better being.
Welcome 2018 looking forward to blessings and well being.

Giving up is not an option….


We are all unique in our own way. We have endured and continue to endure experiences which are unique to us. It is also possible that many of us may have experienced the same incident but our responses may be different. As humans we can create our own responses which are different to the same situation.

Troubles come in our life, and sometimes we don’t know why we are going through it. The wet pillow becomes a best friend at some points in our life. During such times, make a decision and take action, take control if possible. However sometimes we can’t do anything and can’t find a solution for such situations. At such times, its best to take a pause, make progress slowly but don’t give up. We understand life backwards and so will not know why something happened until later in life. One thing I am sure of is that everything happens for a reason, we have the power to endure. When we cannot, we have a greater force on our side which helps us tide this situation.

During such difficult times – it’s easy to give up, succumb to the situation and go to the extreme of ending one’s life. However according to me giving up is not an option. We should strive to live and continue to prosper. So what if you have lost a loved one, you are lonely, or you are completely shattered, these are unpleasant experiences, but they build you for what’s in store. You may be the only survivor in your family with no purpose to live. But who knows it is this experience that can propel you to bring healing to others. So what if you are bed ridden, you have a life, ask yourself what I can do positively in your life. What can you do, what can be if you take the first step? May be you can tell a story, may be you help others.

God has created our beautiful life – there may be some hiccups along the way. Life may not be as beautiful for us now but it doesn’t have to stay that way forever. Everything in life is momentary, how we cope with life is all that matters and once you make that shift is when you will be able to view life differently. It’s easy to be a victim and blame others for everything bad in our life, but if we can change this perspective in learning what life has in store for us than this will be a very different journey.

No matter what is the state of our life, there is a reason why we are here in this world, we have a purpose in life that only we can fulfill. It is possible that we don’t know that purpose and once we know the purpose in life, we will be propelled in a whole new direction. Many a times we give up and quit when we are almost about to strike gold. Giving up is never an option, make a decision to endure, to make the change and make a difference in your own and others’ lives. Who knows, your trouble, helplessness, worries may disappear the very next hour, day, month or year.

“I can choose either to be a victim of the world or an adventurer in search of treasure. It’s all a question of how I view my life.”
―Paulo Coelho

Life as we know it…..


There are times in our life when things go wrong go drastically wrong. We may be at the top of our game and at the pinnacle of our art but then  sometimes due to no fault of ours, things seem to be going downhill.it seems whatever you have built is either coming crashing down or brick by brick is falling apart. It’s almost like you are in a highway driving at cruise speed and then you hit a barrier that was not meant to be there and your car swirls out of control. When you finally are in control, you realize that your car is a wreck, and sometimes depending on how bad the accident you may have a scar or an injury.

Life is tough and there will be times when things are out of our control. It’s frustrating at times coz no matter what you do the outcome is always perceived negatively. No matter how hard you work, you are always hit below the belt. You start feeling that you are dealt a poor hand. Everyone else is better off and don’t seem to have the same problem as me.

You may be having a life, where everything has been good and the grass is green and then something happens and then you are no longer in control and you seem to be sinking in quicksand.

There will be circumstances in life, when everything and everyone seems to be going against you. During this time it’s easy to be negative and say why me? We tend to get critical of others as well as ourselves. If the situation still continues it may push you to a corner where you may start doubting your own confidence & decisions. That is where persistence and resilience is so important.

Sometimes it’s not about fighting back. The situation is like a perfect storm, where you don’t fight it, at times its best you lay low and let the storm pass rather than paddle against the storm. Paddling against the storm may only tire you out and the storm will engulf you completely. If you stay low and just stay focused on what you need to do, after sometime the storm will pass and you will be able to paddle away on a beautiful day.

At times there are battlefields in the mind, where you literally play out what’s happening and what needs to happen as a result it drains you out further. We need to focus on what we can do and the rest leave to God, we cannot control everything.

Below are some tips that can help you tide during such situations:

  1. Gratitude Journal – Focus on the positive, we would like to have a lot more, but we could also have alot less. Be thankful for the people and things in your life. A Gratitude Journal is a good way to be thankful on a daily basis for all the goodness experienced during the day. As a result of the negativity we tend to focus only on what’s wrong or broken. The journal is good reminder of all the goodness that’s still in our life.
  2. Spirituality – it’s important that you have some kind of belief and practice some kind of belief in God. This life and our existence is supernatural and understanding that connection can be very soothing.
  3. Be Gentle towards yourself. – You need to be gentle towards yourself there’s a lot going on and our circumstances may be forcing us to a corner. People, our friends and family may not be speaking highly of us. But you need to make peace with yourself and let yourself know that you are doing everting in your power to do the right thing and pat your back and tell yourself that you will get through this and you are a good person. There is no shortage of critics and you don’t need to be a self-critic as you will be with yourself at all times your soul needs to be at peace with your mind. It’s not your fault that someone died, their time was up and they had to go. It’s not your fault that something went wrong, it’s not your fault that there is no food in your fridge. Give yourself some slack and focus on what needs to be done. You can’t blame yourself for everything.
  4. No Self Pity – While you need to be gentle towards yourself, you can’t afford to have self-pity. You can cry if needed if it helps calm your nerves. Having a pity party with yourself will pull you down and if this is at a regular interval it may lead you to depression. It’s ok to be depressed once a while but don’t stay there. Pity party will only dampen your spirts further. There is a lot more to live for and life is not over yet.
  5. Reduce Negativity – cut down on negative relationships, thoughts or anything that influences negativity. This is the most important aspect, if you surround yourself with negativity than no matter what you do, you will always focus on negativity and you will be more and more negative to everything including yourself. Any sign of positive progress can be brought down by surrounding ourselves with negative or toxic people. Negative people may further magnify a negative situation and over power the good in your life.
  6. Surround yourself with positivity- Positive people will build you and reinforce hope and positivity in your life. Seeing the glass half full is a very important aspect especially when you are struggling in a situation. You will enjoy positive aspects even in a worst case scenario. Be surrounded by a positive environment, if there is someplace that brings down your energy its best you avoid it now or at least until you are strong enough to face it again.
  7. This too shall pass – know that everything is not constant, everything good or bad will pass away with time. You need to be resilient but remind yourself that this is a temporary phase. Having this attitude helps you overcome the most difficult life changing events.
  8. Get creative – Do something you love, get a passion that helps you overcome your emotions. Find a hobby or alternate passion like painting, cooking, hiking, music anything that soothes you.
  9. Stay Fit – Both mentally and physical, start exercising on a regular basis, this emits positivity in the body as well you will get some balance. If nothing at all, it help you in taking out your frustration in a very creative way.
  10. Drink Water – Don’t underestimate the humble drink.it is a fluid which reaches every part of the body and supplying essentials to our different body part. Drinking water keeps us hydrated, this a wonderful remedy with no hangover.
  11. Eating Healthy – Nutrition is key to how we feel, what we eat is what we feel, identify what foods make you irritated or happy. However binge eating is not an answer neither is eating chocolate at all times. Rather focus on nutritious & natural food. Consider your current health and include, proteins, carbo hydrates and the necessary fat. Avoid fast food and anything that is unhealthy.
  12. Circle of Influence – Focus on what is within your control. You have an important meeting, stuck in traffic, what’s in your control – no point cursing and trying to drive like a maniac. Inform the participants you will be late, can you reschedule. Best is if you can plan in advance in anticipation of the traffic. Focus on what’s in your control, the more you get irritated and frustrated, the more it will impact your mental well-being.
  13. Self-Talk – Sometimes a pep talk is needed, positive self-talk is needed as your soul needs to hear the words. At times emotions are high when we are angry or frustrated, sometimes it almost feels like a lost situation or people may make you feel like a loser. It is during those times that you need to talk to yourself and let yourself know that you are worthy and there is a purpose to your life there is a calling and this phase is temporary. It’s important that you self-talk in present tense. Eg. I am good in singing, not I will be good in singing. This too shall pass not this will pass. The tense of the sentence should be present tense so your senses can accept this view point and slowly you will see the positive change.
  14. Talk to someone – Sometimes just talking out your feelings, thoughts or situation with someone you trust, unleashes the pent up negative energy. But don’t continue on a negative ongoing rant as it will hamper your further. It’s ok to vent but not get into a victim mode.
  15. Help others – Helping others can sometime help create a sense of positivity.
  16. Get Help if needed – Seek help from friends and family there is no share in asking for help. Sometimes it’s best to seek a professional help it’s not wrong. We are living in stressful times where the pressures of life is high. It’s completely acceptable to seek professional counselling, mentoring, coaching or medical help as needed.

Know that everything has a reason, you will only learn with time why you had to endure this difficult situation. Life is a best teacher, you don’t need to know the answers to everything in life. You need to know that you are unique you are blessed and God has a plan for you. Life is a journey not a destination we are travelers so let’s make most of this life. We will hit some rough patches, lean in on others as needed but make sure that you make some memories while in dirt. We will reach out destination in all crowning glory.

Rainy Night


Its 7:30 and there’s no Sun

It’s raining so I couldn’t go for my run.

It’s been raining all night

telling me its monsoon time all-right.

The lightening & thundering has me scared

And I am sleeping in fright under my bed.

I ask God to take it away

And he reminds me that it’s not the month of May.

 

Please I say, I am scared of thunder & lightening

The thunderous sound has me freighting.

God smiled and said,

Come out from under the bed.

It needs to rain as per plan

Just breathe and you will be fine in ten.

 

Just then the dark sky is lit up with light followed by a clap of thunder.

My heart flutters and I creep back under.

God, I say is this your way of a joke

I am scared and you mock and poke.

God says, no child, be brave and trust me

This thunder & lightening by morning will flee.

 

I sleep not throughout the night

And wait for the first ray of light.

I am welcomed by the monsoon sights

I am relieved that I lived through the night,

 

God says, child, life is a roller coaster ride

Yes I say, and many times I have cried.

He smiles, it’s filled with peaks & valleys

You will experience rainy & sunny days.

As you live your life, I will show you different ways.

If you endure the rains you will be able to enjoy the sun

And then you can go for your run.

So it is with life, if you endure the rains and pains

You will reap the joy & gains

 

Sometimes life pushes us to a wall,

Just remember it’s not the end of it all.

You will be relieved that you lived through the night

And with the first ray of light comes the sun

And I can now go for my Run.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Destiny – Do I have a Choice


“Do you believe in destiny” my friend asked. I looked at her and then replied yes I do.. She thought about it and then asked “what is destiny according to you”?  A fair question I though because her understanding of destiny is likely to different than mine.

While have always believed that we all have a destiny I never thought about it the way my friend was asking me. I told her the first thing that came to my head that our destiny is already decided, everything happens for a reason, and we have a destination, an end point that we all are headed to. What is my destination? while I understand I don’t really know the end point yet? She was not convinced with my answer and obviously her understanding of destiny was different. We never got to complete the conversation, but that led me to introspect a few things about destiny and destination.

What really is destiny, what is my destiny, do I have any say in the destiny. I thought about it, I looked up the meaning, below were the 2 that I could find.

  1. The events that will necessarily happen to a particular person or thing in the future.
  2. The hidden power believed to control future events; fate.

I am more of a believer of the second definition that there is a supernatural power, a God who is in control of our destiny with the aspect that everything happens for a reason. But then I thought if everything is pre-defined then do I have a choice, if not then what is the point of taking efforts & struggling in this life, when something is not going to change.

I thought about it, I realized that in life while God wants nothing but the best for us, the Free Will is with us humans. Remember the movie Bruce Almighty, this dialogue in the movie has stayed with me,  There are only 2 rules. You can’t tell anybody you’re God, believe me you don’t want that kind of attention, and you can’t mess with free will. Basically God does not interfere with the Free Will of us humans and we have the power of acting without the constraint of necessity or fate; the ability to act at one’s own discretion.

No matter what situation we are in good, bad or ugly we always have choices. The choices & decisions we make either lead us closer or further away from the destination. The Bible says: I call heaven and earth to record this day against you, that I have set before you, life and death, blessing and cursing: therefore choose life, that both thou and thy seed may live:

The GPS analogy is good way to describe destiny and final destination. So think about it this way, you are going on a vacation and you are using your GPS. As you drive down the road you decided to use the fastest route to the destination as displayed by the GPS. We always do that, but sometimes as we know, roads sometimes in the interiors of a location are not mapped accurately and then we may end up taking a wrong turn. This then leads to a detour and the GPS then suggests another path to the destination. Assuming how off path you would have got, you will need travel that extra distance in order to reach the final destination. At times the GPS suggest multiple options and you make a choice which route to drive. So primarily we always have options, no matter what kind of a dire situation we are in.

If I am destined to be on stage or to be a personality figure, than no matter what choice I make, like getting a profession which does not lead me to the destination. I will go further away from my destination. I have the power to make the choices. There may be times that I am evading my destiny and make choices which are in opposite of where my destiny lies. There will come a point in time where you will have to make a detour, if you don’t, you will make a destiny which is very different than the one that God planned for you.

God will only be supportive and try to provide us options and choices at all times so we can make the right choices and get back on track and move closer to our destiny.

Another movie that I remember is dangerous minds a quote that hit me home was, “Hey, listen. Nobody’s forcing you to be here. You have a choice. You can stay, or you can leave…. There are no victims in this classroom” another dialogue is “Because I make a choice to care. And honey, the money ain’t that good.”

We have a choice in everything that happens to us, we can do it or not do it. Doing nothing about something at hand is also a choice. So really when we are in our journey of life we have plenty of options and choices. Choices & decisions that we take in life really make us who we are and this can either a good reflection of who we were either meant to be or someone that is unrecognizable. I am made in the image of God so I am destined to a lot more in life and will not settle for less. Being more choice full and decisive will help ensure that I reach my final destination.

So in closing I will exercise my free will the power of acting without the constraint of necessity or fate; the ability to act at one’s own discretion.