“You are resilient” someone told me. I looked at the person and thought what does that mean. … While I understood what it meant, I still felt an inner need to look up the meaning. So I looked up the meaning of Resilience. This is what I found,
- (of a substance or object) able to recoil or spring back into shape after bending, stretching, or being compressed.
- (of a person or animal) able to withstand or recover quickly from difficult conditions.
All of us grow in life, we have our share of ups and downs, some traumatic situations, some difficult moments including depression. But how we respond to the situation is the key to being resilient.
“You are resilient” the words echoed in my head….am I really resilient; I asked myself or am I just accepting life as it comes and procrastinating everything else.
This person had no idea of what I have been through in life, other than what they could see or what I had told them. They had no understanding of the experiences that I had and they were not be able to fathom what life meant to me.
I pondered and reflected on different phases in my life. There were high, some lows, there were some successes some losses. It did not mean that I didn’t experience pain, loss, anxiety or stress. It simply meant that I went through the emotions and at some point came to terms with the circumstance and decide to be in control and do something about it.
Resilience is all about attitude and the response to a situation. I have grown by leaps and bounds while in the valley. When we are at the mountain top, the view is beautiful but when you go through the valley it can get painful, but my experiences have taught me how to navigate through the valleys so I can climb another mountain and enjoy the scenic beauty. It’s not about the adverse event but its more about the character you build as you respond to the situation.
Resilience can be developed unlike other traits this is something we can develop and even prepare ourselves like we do in combat.
The below aspects were very helpful as I built my resilience over the years
- Connect with the internal – Spiritual
- Connect with the external – the world
- Close circle of relations – family, friends
- Positive thoughts and attitude – Where the mind goes there the man follows.
- Meaning of self – Purpose of life
- Helping others
- Developing a creativity for venting out
- Physical Well being
As I read about resilience I was very intrigued by it. I was very surprised to find out the amount of research that has gone into the subject. I always felt, it does not matter to anyone if you are resilient or not. One has to see the big picture, be strategic in order to be successful or just go with the flow of life. But I now realize, how wrong I was…. There is a lot of research on the subject where it’s related to the new buzz word GRIT (Growth, Resilience, Integrity and Tenacity)
As I googled information on Resilience I came across this Resilience shop site and was amazed with the kind of services they had to offer. Starting from an online survey which tells your resilience score to other offerings of coach and other related programs. Some research group has also created a Resilience grid. A simple word but has created so much interest
Organizations, community and society at large do need people to be resilient, if people are not resilient than we are an extinct species.
Life is the best teacher. I may not always be at the mountain top, but I have learnt how to enjoy my journey while in the valley and in the plains. Life is a journey and I have learnt to enjoy each destination. It’s a reminder that if you have gone through that then you can go through anything. You need to understand that you don’t have to live life as a victim because God has created us to be a victor and not a victim. We should not compromise for less when we can inherit the best. Don’t give up when we are so close to victory.
It’s been years when I first seen this quote in a very unlikely office (a government office – where you would least expect this to be hosted on a wall). It’s been one of those quotes which has been inspirational to me Don’t Quit
Believe in yourself and don’t quit….No matter where its barren a dream is born……